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That's Not What You Said boundaries emotional honesty relationships the real process Jun 09, 2026

June 2026 | Living REAL with Heidi Coleman

I have said things I meant as love that didn't land as love. I've also been on the receiving end — words offered kindly that felt, to me, like a verdict. I know both sides of that gap. I've lived in both places. And I'm still learning, probably every week,...

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Big Emotions emotional honesty grief the real process Apr 16, 2026

April 2026 | Living REAL with Heidi Coleman

A friend texted me two words this week: big emotions.

It was her answer to "how was your trip?"

I didn't need more than that. I knew exactly what she meant. And I've been thinking about those two words ever since — about how sometimes they're the only h...

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What the Soul Already Knew emotional honesty grief presence over performance the real process Apr 08, 2026

April 2026 | Living REAL with Heidi Coleman

Earlier this week after work I sat down, logged into my dad's medical portal, pulled his test results and summary, saved them, and emailed them to him and my brother so everyone would have them.

Nobody asked me to do it that way. I just did it.

That was...

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When Grief Arrives in the Middle of the Holidays boundaries capacity emotional honesty family expectations grief holidays presence over performance Dec 09, 2025

Some years, the holidays arrive with sparkle and ease. Some years, they arrive with a weight you didn’t plan for.

This year, mine arrived quietly — and with loss.

My childhood friend Matthew died on December 4.
We met in third grade — two kids who understood each other long before either of us real...

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